Woman wearing a collar with attached chain
|B&D, B/D, or BD||Bondage and discipline|
|D&s, D/s, or Ds||Dominance and submission|
|S&M, S/M, or SM||Sadism and masochism|
|Top/Dominant||partner who performs or controls the activity|
|Bottom/Submissive||partner who receives or is controlled|
|Switch||switches between roles|
A dominatrix (plural dominatrixes or dominatrices) or mistress is a woman who takes the dominant role in sexual practices of bondage, discipline, dominance and submission or sadomasochism, which are often abbreviated as BDSM. His male counterpart is the master.
The term domme is a coined pseudo-French female variation of the slang dom (short for dominant). The use of "domme", "dominatrix", "dom", or "dominant" by any woman in a dominant role is chosen mostly by personal preference and the conventions of the local BDSM scene.
Male professional dominants also exist, catering predominantly to the gay male market.
- Wikipedia has an article about Dominatrix
- Wipipedia has an article about Domme
- wikiHow: Act Like a Dominatrix
- How to Look Like a Dominatrix
- How to Act Like a Dominatrix
- Be confident
- Have a plan
- Be flexible to your client's needs
- Hold yourself correctly
- For inspiration; look to Irene Adler[wp], from BBC's 'Sherlock' series
- Keep in mind that it is not the clothes that make a domme; rather it is her self confidence, self awareness, and ability to control the conversation.
- wikiHow: Be a Dominatrix (1. Understanding Consent and Safety as a Dominatrix, 2. Manipulating Bodily Sensations, 3. Using Bondage, 4. Setting the Tone, 5. Playing the Dominatrix)