|Marriage / cohabitation||heterosexual||gay|
|Base:||Kinship ||? |
|Goal:||Offspring, inheritance, livelihood|
|End:||After termination of the marriage community is entitled to compensation (alimony)|
|Divorce: official annulment of marriage before a court|
|Right:||Protection by law|
|Base:||Dual relationship of man and woman||Relationship of two gay or lesbian|
|Goal:||Self-realization, sex||Self-realization, sex|
|Duration:||indefinitely (as long as it's good)||indefinitely (as long as it's good)|
|End:||Upon the expiration of love removes the basis for business||Upon the expiration of love removes the basis for business|
|"to break up": an informal act by which the relationship is terminated unilaterally||"to break up": an informal act by which the relationship is terminated unilaterally|
|Right:||not justiciable, not protectable||not justiciable, not protectable|
|Can a Woman Love a Man?
The idea of love is tossed around in our society as if it is inevitable that we will someday fall in love and stay in love our entire lives. But, only in modern times has it received such exalted status. Traditionally, it has been considered a very fickle emotion.
Going back to some of the founding religious documents of our civilization, we find that Eve is commanded to be subservient and obedient to Adam. It is interesting that Eve is not commanded to love Adam, perhaps because the Bronze Age men who wrote these documents knew that was virtually impossible. Indeed, the Laws of Game[ext] and Laws of Hypergamy[ext] are based on the fact that a women will love a man's power, social status or financial status but not the man himself.
To answer the question if a woman can love a man, it helps to look at the history of marriage, which is today considered the ultimate act of love. But the Western idea of falling in love in order to get married and have a family is a recent one. In the past, marriages were more about financial arrangements between families than ideas of love. People used to marry young and stay together their entire lives.
They also used to have kids young, rather than waiting for the perfect "magic moment" that never comes. This, indeed is quite a contrast to today when most women have been passed around quite a few times before they marry and have children in their 30s if at all, a time when declining fertility puts reproduction at risk. In fact, a woman's window of peak fertility extends from her teenage years to about the age of 25. After age 25 and especially age 30, it becomes statistically less and less likely she will conceive and more likely she will have complications if she does.
This practical use of marriage for the purpose of creating and sustaining the family has changed enormously into a legal ball and chain for men in modern times. It offers lots of obligations and responsibilities and almost no rights. A woman begrudgingly gives a beta male sex in the marriage, and she can dispose of him at any time in today's world and be awarded cash and prizes. (In the past, such a woman would have been shunned by society.) These facts help illustrate the use of men as a utility by both women and society, and also demonstrates a lack of love for men.
The history of marriage is an interesting one. The 5,000 year history of marriage along with Briffault's Law shows us male roles in relationships are more about providing utility value, rather than a woman loving a man.
Marriage: Practicality and Not Romance
Throughout much of human history, marriages have been arranged by families with the bride and groom having no say over the arrangement. This custom is still practiced in many societies today. Of course, having children and continuing family bloodlines, passing down property rights, and creating a stable environment for children were the reasons marriage came into existence. A dowry (financial reward) was often arranged to reward the groom for the difficult, lifelong task of taking on one of the family's daughters as a wife.
Four thousand years ago marriage was used to preserve political power in Mesopotamia as kings married off daughters to form alliances, produce heirs, and acquire land. A couple thousand years later, the Anglo-Saxons saw marriage as a bartering chip to establish diplomatic and economic ties. This meant families wanted their children to marry someone at least as powerful and wealthy as they were.
Often, marriages took place without documentation and were based on people's word. That is, until the 1200s when the Catholic Church declared marriage a sacrament. Following suit, Protestants later decided marriage was not a private institution. In the 1500s the Roman Catholic Church's Council of Trent decreed marriages needed to take place in front of a priest and two witnesses to be considered valid. That decision made marriage a legal contract instead of a private arrangement, and is the beginning of the long arc that has led it to become all risk and no reward for men today.
For most of human history, marriage was considered much too important to be based on a the fleeting emotion love. It was about men providing material value for their wives, and women producing offspring. Stephanie Coontz, author of Marriage: A History puts it this way:
Marriage and love have often been considered incompatible. A Roman politician was expelled from the Senate after kissing his wife in a display that was called "disgraceful!" And, the French philosopher Montesquieu wrote that any man who was in love with his wife was probably much too dull to be loved by other women. (The man knew a beta male when he saw one!)
The idea of loving your future wife or husband is a recent development in human history. In our own civilization, it can be traced back a thousand years to the Middle Ages and the troubadours. Troubadours wrote songs and poetry during from around 1100-1350 A.D. that deal with love and courtship. Before this time, a father had to give consent as to who his daughter would marry. A daughter not marrying who her father expected was considered a major show of disrespect to both her father and her family, for not giving him a say in the family's bloodlines.
By the time of the Enlightenment, philosophers began to write about the pursuit of happiness, and told people to marry for love instead of wealth or status. Our notions of romantic marriage today stem from these developments.
Marriage and the family have taken a slide in the 20th and 21st centuries, perhaps because we have lost sight of the practicality of marriage for society in trying to base the entire institution on an emotion. The age of first marriage has been rising and the divorce rate stands at over half. However, before the time of the Civil War divorce was exceedingly rare.
And up until 1970, when Governor Ronald Reagan[wp] signed the first no fault divorce act into law, women had to prove their husbands had been guilty of cruelty, desertion, or sex crimes to get a divorce. This law set off a cultural seismic wave that weakened the family. In a hilarious footnote, up until the divorce revolution women often took the stand to play the victim card and make false claims during divorce cases, showcasing women's natural talents for dissimulation. One California Supreme Court Justice recalls:
Perhaps the reason it was so hard for obtain a divorce in the past is reflected in these facts: women are flighty, and they're often irresponsible. Today, four out of five divorces are initiated by or caused by women. Women often divorce for spurious reasons, or as seen above, totally fabricated ones.
By 1985, in response to changing cultural mores and women playing the victim card, every state in the country had no-fault divorce laws. But, many of them have punitive laws on the books for men which can literally enslave men for life with alimony to someone they were only married to a few years. This is further detailed in Anglo American Women Are Risky to Your Wallet and Your Freedom.[ext] The law has, in effect, pedestalized women and trampled men as Anglo society has a long tradition of doing. With women getting preferential treatment in the workplace and having godlike powers in the court system, they do not have to pretend to love men anymore. An anthropological survey shows us how they act when given total power.
Adding to the case that women only want men for their utility value is Briffault's Law, given to us by social anthropologist Robert Briffault[wp] in his epic work The Mothers:
When combined with what we know about gaming women and hypergamy, it is easy to see a woman does not love a man as much as she uses him a resource. H.L. Menken supported Briffault's idea:
For most of history, and in many other species the male is only a sperm donor who is discarded once the task of mating is completed. After a temporary move towards patriarchy and giving men roles in society other than sperm donor, the rise of feminism and the misandrist court system in Anglo America has once again legally reduced human fathers from "house-band" (he who holds the home together, or husband) to sperm donor. These lines of evidence point to one hard to swallow answer to the question posed by this article: Can a woman love a man?
Answering the Question
The history of marriage shows that romantic love is a recent concept to base marriage on, and marriages have endured without love in the past. It can be said that in reality marriage breaks down to economics for both sexes: Men have a surplus of strength and production capacity, that they trade for a woman's valuable 10-15 year window of fertility. Briffault's Law which was gleaned through enormous amounts of research also confirms this idea.
Therefore, human history and anthropological research shows female "love" for men is really more of a love for his resource provision, wealth, status, or power more than it is any emotional attachment. For if the man loses his ability to provision, or his status or power, we see it time and again that he will find himself alone because no woman wants a "loser." We also see it with the 80/20 rule in today's society. Women reward the minority of men with sex and attention while leaving the vast majority sexless and alone, no matter what nice guys they are. Men are a utility to women, and once the utility has been consumed she will no longer be interested.
This brings us to a harsh conclusion: From being coded into religious doxy as a commandment to Eve to serve and obey her husband Adam rather than to love him, to the fact marriage has existed as an institution that did not concern itself with love through most of history, to the fact since the sexual revolution women abandon lower status men almost completely, evidence mounts that no, women do not love men the way men love women. Men must realize this and control their emotions. Arthur Schopenhauer wrote about these fundamental differences between the sexes:
- The marriage is a familial connection attached between the two original families of the bride and groom (intermarriage). Since this creates a complex network of relationships, this should not be careless and selfish terminated by either party..
- Doesn't exist! What can it be?
A community based on love and sex, it can be concluded that neither life nor the intermarriage of two families of origin is sought.
- Christian: "Bis der Tod euch scheidet." - "So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate." (Matthew 19.6, Mark 10.8-9) - "To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife." (1 Corinthians 7:10-11) - "For the Lord God of Israel says That He hates divorce." (Malachi 2:16) - "Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery." (Luke 16:18, Matthew 5:31-32)
Islam: "And if they decide upon divorce, then surely, Allah is All- Hearing, All-Knowing." (Sura 2, 227) - "Among lawful things, divorce is most hated by Allah." (Hadith: Abu Dawud)
Secular: Since the marriage relationship is long term - relationships[wp] were established between two families - the divorce should be the exception.
- The divorce of a marriage should be opposed "breaking up" for not done unilaterally in a concubinage, but by the conviction of both families of origin be that the continuation of the marriage unacceptable (for extreme violence) or impossible (spouses and families of origin are hopelessly divided) or otherwise is agreement on the abolition of the intermarriage was made.
- The "breaking up" can be summarized in a "Hey, it's over now, you can go".
Women often go pretty kinky ways to end relationships: take the so-called "time-outs" deny themselves sexually, find a new friend or even equal to a whole new circle of friends ... just as if they leave clues that the "unloved" is to collect and partners as possible to lure him on the right track. This has the purpose of allowing the unpleasant truth itself must be pronounced not, but "comfortable" may be waiting for the partner alone sometime it happens that he is no longer loved.
- ElitePartner.de: Fünf Sätze beim Schlussmachen und was sie bedeuten (Five sets when breaking up and what they mean)
- Love is just as justiciable friendship, sex is not enforceable. In this respect at a concubinage, the protective effect of the Item 6 para 1 Basic Law do not apply. The demand for equality of homosexual unions with marriage are therefore systematically pursue purpose because nonsense or to devalue the institution marriage to concubinage and rob as the protection of Article 6, Section 1 of the German Grundgesetz demands.
- Can a Woman Love a Man?, The New Modern Man on May 19, 2016
- The Incel Wiki has an article about Marriage
- MGTOW Wiki: Marriage
- To Fix Marriage, We Need To Fix Divorce, Daily Caller on March 31, 2017 (Marriage is in decline. In roughly 35 years, or about two generations depending on the age of marriage, the percentage of married men aged 20-39 has halved. This is not a conundrum only for the curious. The decline of marriage has far reaching negative consequences for men, women, and most especially children. [...] The question for men stopped being single vs married and became single vs. married vs. divorced - and men's perception of divorce's risks far outweighs the benefits of marriage.)
- Marriage vs. MGTOW - YouTube-Comments - Rebutted! - Stefan Molyneux (April 6, 2015) (Size: 14:34 min.)
- Defeating the Marriage Compulsion with MGTOW - Diana Davison (November 16, 2014) (Size: 12:10 min.) (Sieg über die Zwangsehe mit MGTOW)
- Laura Doyle: Marriage guidance destroys marriages, Daily Mail Online on December 20, 2013
- Peter Hitches: A tax break can't rescue marriage: It's been doomed for four decades, Daily Mail Online on 15 December 2013
- Stephen Baskerville: Divorced From Reality (Don't blame the gay lobby for the decline of marriage.), The American Conservative on November 22, 2010 (Marriage exists primarily to cement the father to the family. This fact is politically incorrect but undeniable. The breakdown of marriage produces widespread fatherlessness, not motherlessness.)